Hemorrhoid Surgey - Is it painful?

I have had hemorrhoids for a long time. I would assume it was probably due to my years of weight lifting and participation in various sports. I handled it well at an early age but it got worse over time. Preparation H can do but so much. It started to impact me more when I rode a bike or ate something that did not agree with me, mostly spicy which I love. I first decided to pursue banding but that did not work to well. They reappeared twice. Banding is somewhat painful when it is done but the pain subsides within a few hours. Since this did not work I decided to pursue other options. I also looked into laser but was told that surgical removal had a 95% success rate. The doctor told me about the pain that was involved in it but her patients were glad they did it in the long run.

I was recommended to a specialist in my area. I set the appointment and I was told that there are inner and outer hemorrhoids and the kind I had would not have gone away with banding. The option was get them taken care of or just deal with them. I decided to get it taken care of. The doctor laid out the plan and what would happen. The office would call me to schedule. I was also given information with how to prepare. No food the day before and I had to do an Enema the night before. There was no drinking or eating anything the day of. You also must have someone to drive you home. It is also recommended that you take some time off to recover.

I arrived early was prepped and once again told what to expect. I was also reminded by the doctor that I would be cursing them during the first week due to pain and boy was she right. She also stated that I should not do anything strenuous for at least a week or two. Recovery time was at least 2 to 3 weeks.

The Must Haves
1. Pain Meds
2. Pads due to bleeding
3. Lots of water
4. Food at home
5. Oh Yea....Did I say PAIN MEDS?

The After.

I was not in much pain due to the meds still being in effect. I was pretty nauseated after. I was giving a prescription for pain medications and a muscle relaxer. I also had to get stool softener as meds will make you constipated.  The pain was uncomfortable but bearable. I was not going to the bathroom and was concerned but I was told it could take up to 3 days to relieve myself. That day came and it was the most excruciating pain I have had. I have not had any major surgeries but when I went to the bathroom It had to be like having a baby or worse. I can only equal that to this event but of course I have never had a baby.

Is it painful? A resounding YES!! The pain does not last forever but I would keep the meds around and take them at scheduled times. The stool softener is also very important.  The Tylenol, Oxy and Ibuprofen is a MUST HAVE.

I am in day 3 so I will update later as things progress.

Android 9 and 9 Plus Music pauses while listening

Android Issue - Music pauses while listening.

I have had an issue with the Android 9 pausing frequently while listening to music. I started to check options and found the issue.

Check your BATTERY POWER SAVING options under SETTINGS>Device>Battery. Take the settings off of Medium or Maximum and change to OPTIMIZED.

Check your Applications (especially music Applications) and verify you have not placed them in sleep mode while not being used. DEVICE CARE>BATTERY. Select Application, Scroll to Bottom and Turn "Put App to Sleep" to OFF. 

This should fix your problem. It fixed mine.

How to Spot a Fake Dating Profile

How to spot fake online profiles

There are a lot of “red flags” that can indicate a fake profile and that someone is a scammer rather than a potential romantic partner.
If the profile or the person behind it is guilty of any of the following, it may be a fake profile and part of an online dating scam:

1. Fake online profile power words

These keywords found in the majority of fake online profiles include the words Catholic, widowed, female, Ph.D., Nigeria, engineer, self-employed, and Royalty.
If you see any of the above words emphasized on a profile there is a chance that it belongs to a scammer and is fake.

2. Nonsensical messages

Drunk messages are one thing, but fake online profiles run through robotic messaging systems tend to make little to no sense.
Most of the fake profiles belong to either robots or non-English speakers.
According to a study, many romance scammers originate in Western Africa in countries like Nigeria or Ghana.
If you can’t carry on a conversation with an online dating site user, that should be a red flag even if their profile is real!

3. They only have one photo

Photos are one of the most important aspects of your online profile. Having only one photo can be a major red flag, especially if the person is extremely attractive in that one photo.
Fake online profiles are usually designed to be appealing so that people are much more likely to engage with them.
Be wary of that guy you swear you saw in a Calvin Klein campaign or that woman who should be a Victoria’s Secret model.

4. They have empty profiles

It’s important to read through profiles carefully.
Not only will you spot red flags in real profiles, but empty profiles or profiles that might as well be empty often belong to a fake online profile.
This is also why it’s important to keep your own profile in tip top shape. High-quality profiles are appealing to real people.

5. Empty social networks

If you genuinely want to keep only close friends in your social profiles, then there’s no judgment here.
But that bikini-clad model with, you guessed it, only one photo and 60 friends on Facebook is probably fake.

6. They’re famous or royal

Celebrities, princes, and archdukes can all be found through online dating sites. Unfortunately, they are not generally real celebrities, princes, or archdukes.
Most commonly found are fake online profiles claiming to be African princes.

7. They’re way too forward or flirty

Many online dating scams come in the form of porn and prostitution.
If you’re receiving steamy messages from someone you’ve never met or spoken to, don’t be surprised if they ask you to pay for their photos or to enter their website soon thereafter.

8. They request your personal information

Whether they’re trying to steal your credit card number or your identity, an online dating profile requesting your full name, address, phone number, or social security number is not someone you want to continue talking to.

Paying on Dates -A man's perspective

Dating is fun but tough sometimes. One of the biggest is when to pay and when to share. To me the first date the man tends to pay. The dates after that are questionable. 

There’s no bigger turn off for me than someone looking for a free ride (pardon the pun).

Historically, the gentleman has been responsible for covering the expenses. However, after a few dates, guys get tired of always paying. I personally appreciate it when the lady at least offers to pay or pitch in at some point. You can’t pay for everything, forever as the guy.

It’s actually a deal breaker for me. If the female doesn’t offer to at least buy a round of drinks by the fifth date, then you might want to watch out, because she clearly is expecting you to pay for everything in the long run.

Money, budgeting, debt, credit score, and so on. These are all sensitive topics when it comes to first date conversations. This is why I had to write about money and dating today. These are not topics you’re going to want to mention in your Tinder profile.

What do men really think of money and dating?

At the beginning, we usually don’t care. Actually, I don’t care at all on the first date. I doubt that any of my buddies care about your credit score either. We just want to get laid. We just want to have fun. Most of us don’t have six months into the future and a college fund for the kids.

In the long run, money becomes everything.

It also comes down to what kind of guy you are. Some guys don’t mind spending their paychecks on dating. Others are more frugal. I like to pay for dates, but I’m not a sponsor who’s looking to buy gifts and be on the hook for every single expense. My financial goals come first.

How important is money when it comes to dating?

When you get serious, money becomes everything. Money determines what you do for fun, what you eat, where you live, and how you live. Money is the deciding factor in every decision that you make as a couple.

Every couple would love to spend their holidays in Aruba. This isn’t The Notebook. If you’re broke and frugal, your girlfriend with expensive taste might not find it so charming.

Before you get serious you need to have the money talk.

It’s not comfortable and budgets aren’t the best type of dirty talk, but you need to get this over with. You need to know where both partners stand. Just please don’t discuss money when aroused.

With that being said…

I’ve had relationships ruined by money beliefs.

I won’t sugarcoat it. I’m a huge fan of investing in myself, but I’m also frugal when it comes to courting. I don’t mind a weekend getaway, a hotel room for the night, or a fancy dinner once in a while. I just don’t want to do these things frequently. I would much rather train or invest money into my business. I don’t want to spend every single penny on dates and spoiling my girlfriend. I don’t see the point in that. This gets me in trouble with every relationship.

It’s YOUR journey.

“When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable.” – Walt Disney

You have to remember that it’s your journey and your journey alone. Friends will come and go. Romantic partners will enter, stick around, and then turn into complente strangers. That’s okay. At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you. You can’t compromise who you are. You can’t bend. You can’t throw all of your goals out the window because your current partner has different views.

For example, I have a friend who disappears whenever he finds a new girlfriend. He jumps all in. He stops working out, doesn’t respond to his buddies, and spends all of his money on her. Then when it ends, he’s confused and pissed off.

I’m here to remind you that it’s okay to be a little selfish sometimes. You have to do what’s best for you. Money is very important when it comes to your relationships. Please don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You can ignore it at first, but the topic of money will always creep up into conversation.

 Referenced from: https://stefanieoconnell.com/money-and-dating/#comment-13505

Should I Pay for a Date

Should You Pay for a Date?

It used to be the way things always were in America: if a man and a woman went on a date, the man paid. No two ways about it.
It's now not quite as ubiquitous as it used to be, but it is still a very common mindset. Many women expect men to pay for the first date. Many men would even feel embarrassed to not pay for the first date. Of course they pay for dates! That's just how it's done, and anything else would be classless and rude.
It remains the status quo to a large extent in countries around the world, in fact: I've heard many Latin women gripe about how they'll never see a man again if he doesn't pay for the first date, and when I've asked Asian women if the Asian guys they see on dates pay for them, they respond with, "Of course!" Even the guys they claim they only like as friends and will never date pay for them.
Everywhere you go, men pay for women. A lot of hoopla was made in the States about "going Dutch," which meant splitting the bill, but even the fact that it had to be given a name made it seem like some sort of big, extraordinary event.
Men are still expected to pay for dates.
I intend to show you today, however, that not only is paying for women unnecessary – it actually hurts your odds of ending up with a girl! Bear with me if that seems to insult your sensibilities a bit – before you pass judgment, allow me to invite you to come along down this rabbit hole with me.

Why Men Pay for Women

To understand the psychological effects of a man paying for a woman on both the woman and the man, let's dive deep into the psychology of what exactly is going on when a man pays.
As we discussed in the post on what women want, there are effectively three different kinds of men that women search for:

• Friends
• Lovers, and
• Providers

Women search for all three of these kinds of men all the time.
Some men compete for the role of "friend," and try to show women what fantastic friends they'd be.
Some men compete for the role of "lover," and aim to be very charming, sexy, and alluring to women.
Some men compete for the role of "provider," and aim to show women what reliable long-term providers of security and material comfort they will be.
When you view a man's actions through the friend-lover-provider lens, it becomes quickly apparent where paying for a woman slots you.
It doesn't position you as just friends, because a man and a woman who are just friends share expenses equally.
It doesn't position you as her lover, because lovers are trying to provide romantic and sexual satisfaction to women – not financial or relationship security.
Paying for dates with women, then puts you firmly into provider territory. In other words, you're competing for the long-term boyfriend or husband role.
When you pay for dates with women, you're competing to show them you can take better care of them than other men can.
There's a problem with this though: unless you're super rich, this is a competition you probably can't emerge victorious from. So when you pay for a date, you're not actually winning any competition; you're not actually gaining any extra points; and you're not differentiating yourself in any way over other men.
The man who pays for a date just shows women how average he is. How he's just as good as any other man.
But "good enough" doesn't make a woman's heart flutter, nor does it cause her to drop all her other suitors and fall helplessly, hopelessly in love with you.
In fact, as it were, it doesn't really work at all.

What REALLY Happens to Men Who Pay for Dates

Every girlfriend of mine I've ever had paid for her own food or drinks on our first date.
Most of them paid for mine, too.
But before we talk about what I do – and what you should do – let's first talk a bit more about men who pay for dates.
The past few years, I've gotten good at getting women to open up to me and really trust me with telling me a lot of their inside secrets. And I've heard a lot of shocking things about how women treat men on dates.
I've heard the same stories in San Diego, California and in Beijing, China. Half a world a way, but the stories are exactly the same. They go like this:

• Girl meets boy
• Boy asks girl on date
• Girl goes on date with boy
• Boy pays for dinner and drinks with girl
• Girl smiles and thanks him and makes polite conversation
• Boy and girl maybe see each other one or two more times; boy always pays; girl never sleeps with boy or becomes his girlfriend

I've heard about fifteen of these stories over the past year or so. I think I heard of one where the guy ended up together with the girl.
That's fifteen men and women meeting up. Let's say thirty dates total between the lot of them, some going for one date and some going for three before things unraveled. Let's peg the average cost of a date low – let's say only $35. Many of these dates were to expensive restaurants, so that's probably grossly understating things, but let's say $35 on average.
What's that come out to?
That comes out to over $1000 spent by 15 men on 15 women with a 7% chance of success.
Me personally, and most of my friends, we don't pay for dates, and the percentage of the time we get the girl is typically right around 50%. 50% of the time we go on a date with a girl, she ends up together with us – and we don't pay.
Most men pay for dates, and the vast, vast majority of the time they fail to get the girl.
It should start to become clear that most men are doing something really, really wrong here.
In fact, it should start to appear that most men have no idea what they're doing.
So what's going on? Why do men who pay for the first date not get the girl?
To understand what's happening here, you have to understand the way women assess the men they meet and decide what they want with them. If a woman assesses a man as a potential lover, for instance, but not as a potential provider, she'll be open to moving quickly with him because she finds him attractive, enticing, and sexy and doesn't see moving too fast with him as risky.
On the other hand, if a woman assesses a man as having provider potential, she'll slow things down with him dramatically so as not to risk losing him.
And what happens when things slow down with a seduction? Well, more time is involved. More steps are added. And the chance that mistakes are made, that life intervenes, and that the two people involved don't end up together raises dramatically.
Which means that, when men pay for dates with women, they communicate that they're competing for the boyfriend or husband role, which leads to women slowing things down with them, which leads to them losing those women most of the time.
By paying for dates, most men inadvertently shoot their own feet off, metaphorically speaking. And the worst part is, they never even realize that's what they're doing.

The Answer to "Who Should Pay for a Date?"

So what's the right call then? Does the man pay for a date? The woman? No one?
I struggled with this for a little while. Even after realizing that paying for dates was bad, I'd still try to do it from time to time. Looking back, I can honestly say I have never slept with a girl I paid for on the first date. It hasn't happened once.
I've experimented: I've taken women to fancy restaurants. I've taken them to movies. I've taken them casual places, and everything in between. And out of those different trials, some patterns have begun to emerge.
As a result of all this trial and error, there are a few guidelines I can give you that you can follow that will help you immensely. I'll list them out here:

• Keep dates cheap. Fancy restaurants or otherwise expensive, glamorous dates tell women, "I want to provide for you and take care of you," which in turn tells women, "You need to move very slow with me and make sure you don't mess things up," which leads to things fizzling out most of the time.
  
  Nip that in the bud by keeping things cheap and informal. You can meet a girl at a café or take her on a picnic in the park or hang out at your place and watch a movie, and keep expenses low or even non-existent. Then, instead of the focus being on who's providing for whom, it can just be on you and her, which is what the focus should've always been on from the start anyway.

• Keep the mood informal. Lots of men make their dates a big production, as if this is some huge, significant event that the two of them are out somewhere together. This puts a lot of pressure on women and pushes them into high stakes evaluations. I've had women tell me about girlfriends of theirs' dates, which can range (with one girl) from a casual date that ends up with the girl in bed with a guy on the first date (or the first night they meet) to über formal dates with a guy who wines and dines her repeatedly and never wins her over. The girl remains completely the same – the only difference between the guys she goes on casual dates with and sleeps with and the guys she goes on super formal dates with and does nothing with are the men themselves and the experiences they provide her.
  
  Formal dates do absolutely nothing to help you, and everything to hurt you – avoid them at all costs. Anything that puts a wall between you and a girl – including formality, and hardcore "assessing" and "evaluating" – is counterproductive toward the two of you ending up together.

• Split the bill. When the check arrives, just split it. Lovers treat each other as equals – it's only the providers who seek to throw money and resources at women. By splitting the bill – by each of you paying your fair share – you communicate to her that the two of you are equals and are on the same ground. This is much more conducive to setting up a romantic and sexual relationship than the man who tries to "buy" a woman's attraction with dinner or gifts.

It's important above all that you keep things casual and inexpensive and the focus off the date itself and any monetary aspect of it and rather instead on the daters: you and her.
Dates should never be about impressing a girl. It isn't about showing her how you're obviously doing so well at work that you can afford an expensive dinner. That tells women if they're interested to slow things down and string you along to get you into a provider-style relationship. They're not being malicious when doing this, they're simply giving you what you appear to be seeking: a marriage candidate. They figure if you're going to make things this much of a big production, obviously dating must be an incredibly significant, formal event for you, and they'll have to act accordingly.
Certainly no sex before Date #3, probably not before Date #5, and quite possibly not ever unless you're perfect through those first five dates.
There is a better way: keeping things informal. Keeping them casual. And not paying for dates.
Is it chivalrous to pay for women? Well, yes, certainly it is. But I'll tell you... I've heard lots of women talking about how they wish a man would come along and be chivalrous and take them on a proper date for a change. Yet, these same women sleep with men fast who pay for nothing for them, and never sleep with the men who take them on those proper dates they kept asking for and paid for them.
I'm a firm believer in listening to people's actions over their words, and this is one of the instances where women's actions speak deafeningly louder than their words:
Society may tell you you need to pay for a date with a woman. And women may even tell you that themselves if you ask them.
But when you stop and look at their actions, you realize that not only does paying for dates not help you – it actually hurts you quite a bit. So if you've been paying for dates, give your wallet a break, check out the alternative, and let women's actions speak to you over their words.
And what their actions say is: "I don't want to be bought – I want to be treated an equal!" Being good with women is really about being able to know what women truly want and give it to them – and that starts with listening to their actions and responding accordingly.
So, give the chivalry a rest – and give women what they actually want: a real experience, instead of one that's bought and paid for!

Reference: http://www.girlschase.com/content/should-you-pay-date

How to Break Into A Technology Career

There are college students, those that wish to start a new career and those that are just curious about the Information Technology field. Just look at the top jobs for 2012 and you will see a range of jobs for Information Technology and Health based careers. http://money.usnews.com/money/careers/articles/2012/02/27/the-best-jobs-of-2012. IT is a lucrative field. Those in the field can garner a Salary well into the six figures. Starting salaries can range from 30 to 50K range depending on the geographical area and type of company. So how does someone break in to the field?

First you have to decide what particular area your interest lie. There are various types of IT jobs. http://www.career-opportunities.net/articles/view/different_types_of_information_technology_careers. Do you wish to be a programmer, Web Designer, resolve Network or Server issues. Do you want to be a Database Administrator(DBA). Do you want something more managerial such as Project Management? The decision will be based on what you like to do and will lead to the training you will focus on. There are a variety of opinions on how to do this from certifications to a degree. My opinion is both. Certifications are a great way of showing that you are knowledgeable in a certain field. Certifications vary.http://www.mcmcse.com/othercerts.shtml. A degree takes longer to achieve but it lasts for a life time. I also suggest networking, talking to people and letting them know your interest. Sometimes it is who you know and not always what you know. use networking venues and social networking such as Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, LinkedIn and others.